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on 17 Jul 2014
Hi All,

I am a 23 year old banker and I am moving to Frankfurt in a couple of months. I am a bit worried about making in friends. I have started taking some basic German lessons but I am worried by language skills won't be good enough. 

Can expats already living in Germany tell me how I can make friends in Germany? Are the people friendly or will the fact that I can't speak German be a major disadvantage? I am worried about experiencing culture shock and feeling a bit isolated in a new place.

Thanks

Smith
Anonymous (not verified) on 4 Aug 2014 - 21:26
Hi Smith, I worked on a project for one year in Cologne and had a great experience there. I would say that not being fluent in Germany will be a disadvantage as Germans tend to be very patriotic and love their language. You will find that you will meet some people who will love to be around you because you speak English and they will want to speak English with you all the time. They, however, are a minority. For this reason, I suspect you will encounter some culture shock. As far as meeting people, try joining clubs that you are interested in. Also, when you start making friends, leverage those friends to meet other. That's the best I can offer. To be honest though, I didn't make too many friends after the year I had worked there. I was closest with my work mates and my room mates.
Anonymous (not verified) on 15 Aug 2014 - 11:18
Hello, I'm german myself and you probably will get a culture shock. We germans tend to be reserved and direct which makes us seem cold at first. Of course there are always exceptions, but we're kinda off guard when a stranger tries to make a chit chat with us. Most people I know are very helpful though and you don't have to worry for asking for the right direction or something like this because most of the times you will get a nice answer. Well that is my experience. I can't really say if it's hard to make friends with us compared to other people, but we normally aren't very touchy and "Best friends forever" at first. Like I said we are very reserved people and therefore it might be hard at first to break this wall, but once you do you get a great and genuine friend. As for the language, we actually get excited meeting someone who's not from here and doesn't have any idea. Normally we would try speaking german only if you want us to and when we see your hardship with this language and we want to save you from it we revert back to english. A big advice is that you need to have a thick skin. If you ask for our opinion we will give you the harsh truth whether you like it or not. We are very honest and get straight to the point. You always know where you stand, but don't take it too personally if we say something mean. We are just honest. Of course that doesn't apply to everyone, these are the experiences I've made, but sometimes I'm shocked when I read many negative comments about our behavior because I almost only meet friendly people. (Despite a few exceptions, for example with employees) I hope you have a wonderful time! Don't be too nervous, everything will be fine!
Anonymous (not verified) on 22 Oct 2014 - 16:43
I'm a shy person and naturally very sensitive when it comes to negativity. Though I'm not as that sensitive. I would love to learn German. I have this thing of learning all languages. I speak English, Sign Language, Spanish and a bit Italian. Paula
Anonymous (not verified) on 1 May 2015 - 19:27
well after being in Germany from last 5 years i feel people in Germany are good but not very good there are many reasons for example people here do not welcome each others , like eye contact they reply you how dare you or why you looking at me, kind of spying eyes .they hardly smile . the good thing in these people they dont lie , very punctual . and hard working but human behaviour is not at top . i spent few years in UK and i remember how people react there very friendly behaviour . Germans do not mix early , about English well they really don't like to speak English if you are joined by below 30s then he or she can easily talk with you but above 30s people are conservative and patriotic . what i have sensed 30 percent people are nice 70 percent are cold impression less ., police is like the hell strict which is good thing to stop crimes .
Anonymous (not verified) on 4 Jul 2015 - 10:40
Germans are honest and Frank.that is enough to find true way of living there without being confused.lucky u

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